When you are at the end or the near end of your marriage, it is tempting to stay stuck because of the fear of what the future will look like.
● Will I make a mistake?
● Will I fall apart?
● Will my children be scarred by the divorce?
● Will I ever be happy again?
Divorce is a stressful process no matter what the circumstances may be. The painful emotional highs and lows can become overwhelming. It is easy to get lost in despair of where to start and who to trust.
This difficult time can be conquered by setting reasonable expectations early on in the process. Avoid trying to be perfect and instead focus on small direct actions each day, especially getting informed about the divorce process, so you anticipate some of what lies ahead. If you believe your circumstances are unique, seek advice from a qualified legal professional. In the
meantime, there are a few things you can do for yourself to prepare.
Take the time to review your financial situation especially if you are dependent on your spouse. If you take the time to investigate the state of your finances, you can put together a strategy that will help you adapt to the new reality. The bottom line is that financial changes will be made and accepting this fact early on will help avoid falling into a pit of anger and bitterness. Remind yourself that you have the ability to explore new financial opportunities on your own. Approach each day with the mindset of getting organized and staying on top of your finances.
You can minimize the toll a divorce will take by keeping up with your daily routines and taking life one day at a time. Maintain your meal, exercise and sleeping habits. Reach out to supportive friends and family. Remember there are many aspects of the divorce that are outside of your control; focus on those things within your control. Be aware of your emotions at any
given moment and know that you are allowed to grieve. Grieving starts the healing process, and, with time, peace will come.
Without adequate knowledge about the process of divorce, you may be at risk of making poor decisions. Your comfort level can be raised by finding the right legal professional to help you in your divorce. For answers to your questions about divorce, contact us at The Law Office of Rebecca Medina to schedule a consultation.