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How Can I Propose Mediation to My Spouse?


It almost goes without saying, if you and your spouse have recently decided to get a divorce, you’re probably not on the best terms. But just because you’re arguing a lot or are having difficulty communicating doesn’t mean mediation isn’t an option for your divorce. Choosing mediation over traditional divorce can save you time, stress and money. That’s why it’s important to consider all your options before deciding what type of divorce is right for you.

5 ways to go about proposing mediation

If you want to explore mediation as an option and propose it to your spouse, there are ways to go about it that can increase the possibility he or she will accept. Listed below are some tips on the best ways to propose mediation to your spouse:

  • Do your homework. Before mentioning mediation to your spouse, do as much research as you can. There are many resources available online, and if you have any friends or coworkers who have been through a mediation, talk with them. Make a list of pros and cons about mediation, and be sure you can explain the process thoroughly, but also simply, to your spouse when the time comes.
  • Present it as an option. Rather than telling your spouse what to do, present mediation as a viable option moving forward. Share the information you’ve gathered and why you think it would be beneficial. Don’t tell them mediation is a must and how upset you’ll be if they don’t comply.
  • Be honest about the benefits of mediation. Mediation tends to be faster, cheaper and less stressful than traditional divorce. It’s also private and puts you in power. These aspects of mediation will benefit not just you, but your spouse as well. Be sure to emphasize these points when discussing mediation with your spouse.
  • Allow your spouse to do their own research. After presenting your opinions, step back and let your spouse investigate for themselves.
  • Don’t give up. Just because your spouse’s initial response to your proposal seems lukewarm or cold, doesn’t mean they won’t come around to the idea. Be patient and give them time to think it over.

Contact an experienced mediator in Fresno and San Diego

To find out more about mediation in Fresno, contact The Law Office of Rebecca Medina today at 559-324-5427 in Fresno or 858-285-4315 in San Diego. We have experience handling mediations in Fresno, and we’ll be happy to discuss the ins and outs of mediation with you and your spouse. We take great pride in helping people resolve their divorce disputes so that they can start moving forward with their lives.

Rebecca MedinaAbout the Author: Rebecca Medina

Rebecca Medina is an experienced Family Law attorney, mediator and Collaborative Divorce Lawyer serving the Fresno and San Diego areas. She handles cases ranging from complex divorce matters to child custody, spousal support, prenuptial/postnuptial agreements, QDROs and uncontested divorce cases. She was rated “Clients’ Choice” by Avvo.

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