Going through a divorce is a traumatizing event. To some, it is almost like dealing with a death. There are a lot of feelings of despair, hopelessness, and fear. It is an overall negative experience. Developing some positive habits during this process can help that mindset.
Ways to Develop Positive Habits When Divorcing
It helps to change your mindset by viewing this as a time to heal. This is a time to do things differently and to prioritize taking care of yourself.
Healing processes. Do not numb your feelings or minimize your pain. Accept that there will be pain and through this pain, you can grow. Even so, there are certain things you can do that may lead you on a positive path toward healing.
Some examples of positive habits may include:
- Getting assistance from a counselor
- Participating in a mindfulness practice like mediation, yoga or Tai Chi.
- Taking care of your physical health.
The idea is to focus inward, take care of yourself and start to feel better.
Take stock and think. You may have spent a lot of time taking care of others and not focusing on your own needs. This is often the case when children are involved. You may have pushed your own needs aside.
Now is a time for you to take stock and think about what activities you are really interested in. Things you like to do. Places you like to go. What is it you like to do for fun: hiking, shopping, watching movies?
Do you like to spend time with friends? Get involved with helping others? Listen to music?
The goal is to find yourself again and to carve out time each day to do the things you love to do and are passionate about. Essentially, you are filling your cup back up.
Healing takes place over time but at you are start to feel better inside and out through cultivating good habits and doing things you love, you can see that the divorce can lead you to a better and brighter future. You may see the next phase of your life as positive and possibly, even exciting.
Consult with Rebecca Medina
At the Law Office of Rebecca Medina, we understand the stress divorce causes when your life is disrupted, and you are making major life decisions. Contact us for assistance to hear more about the divorce process options we offer, and we will let you know how we can help. You can reach us online or by calling 559-324-5427.
Rebecca Medina is an experienced Family Law attorney, mediator and Collaborative Divorce Lawyer serving the Fresno and San Diego areas. She handles cases ranging from complex divorce matters to child custody, spousal support, prenuptial/postnuptial agreements, QDROs and uncontested divorce cases. She was rated “Clients’ Choice” by Avvo.
Rebecca is committed to processes that are based on negotiation, compromises, and ultimately empower clients to have control over the decision making process in their family law matter, which can result in less stress and allow them to move to the next chapter of their lives with dignity. With a compassionate and dedicated desire to help her clients in what is often the most difficult time in their life, Ms. Medina carries herself with poise and can relate to her clients on a level that conveys trust and inspires confidence. Rebecca’s philosophy is to be honest, direct, and committed toward helping her clients resolve their family matters by offering processes that result in settlements and empower individuals.