At some point, most people who go through a divorce get to the point where they
are willing to think about dating again.
Of course, if you have been married for a while, that can be a daunting prospect because it may have been quite a few years since you last went out on a date with someone other than your former spouse.
We have some tips to help you comfortably ease back into the dating scene. Here are a few:
- Leave your divorce behind: Try to avoid discussing the details of your divorce or your relationship with your former spouse as much as possible. It’s fine to mention that you are divorced, but the more you talk about the details, the more it will be apparent you have not moved on, which is not going to be an attractive trait.
- Try divorce dating apps: There’s a dating app for everyone these days, including a variety of apps geared specifically toward divorced people who want to get back into the dating scene. If nothing else, it can be nice to know that when you go out to meet your date, you know you aren’t the only one feeling the nerves associated with returning to the dating world.
- Be yourself: This advice is rather cliché, but it is important after you have gone through a divorce to love yourself for who you are, and to allow others to see you for who you are as well. It is likely that a big part of your divorce was a clash in personalities. Do not apologize for who you are—find a partner who complements your personality, rather than bending your personality to fit your partner.
- Move at your own pace: You are the best judge for how quickly you will move once you find a new partner. Generally, it’s advisable to take things slow and go on dates for the sake of dating. It’s good to just get out and meet new people without any pressure to get into a serious relationship right away.
- Plan out how you will introduce your new partner to your kids: Timing is imperative when introducing your children to your new boyfriend or girlfriend. It can take them quite some time to adjust to a divorce, let alone to a new partner. It is natural for children to view a new partner as a rival for your affection. You should constantly reassure your children that they are your priority, and that you love them deeply. You might even consider getting your children involved in planning the first meeting. Pay close attention to how your children and your new partner interact.
For more information and advice as you work to dissolve your marriage, consult a skilled Fresno divorce lawyer with The Law Office of Rebecca Medina.