Overall, divorce rates are falling across the U.S. (although California’s is about 10 percent above the national average), but if you and your spouse have decided to end the marital relationship, one of your first decisions will be what is the best process to choose how to divorce.
While the very word “divorce” may bring up images of court battles, screaming spouses and lawyers attacking each other’s client, it doesn’t have to be that way—and for the sake of your sanity, your finances and your children’s well being, it shouldn’t.
Divorce is one of the most stressful life events you may ever experience. Your feelings throughout the divorce process are undoubtedly complicated—you might feel any combination of grief, fear, uncertainty, relief, freedom, excitement, and many other complex emotions at a given time.
Electing to negotiate the terms of your divorce through mediation can be a smart decision with many benefits. Not only are you more likely to reach a settlement quickly, but you and your spouse are less likely to waste money on contentious litigation – and less likely to end up frustrated and angry with the outcome.
Whether ending your marriage was your choice or not, whether your relationship with your ex remains amicable or turns contentious, and whether or not the divorce is burdening you with significant financial strain, the mixed emotions that divorce involves are tough to process and to experience.
Whether you are set to receive or owe spousal support payments, working cooperatively with your ex and a mediator may help you arrive at an agreement more easily, rather than becoming mired in a lengthy, emotional, and costly legal battle.
If you are considering filing for divorce, you may find yourself facing uncertainty, fear, anxiety, and a whirlwind of other emotions. Sometimes you know when it’s unequivocally time to end a marriage; other times, it’s not so cut and dry.